I never thought that Kyle's sibling would have special needs. I imagined something different for him, and for ourselves. A road a little less bumpy perhaps. I try not to bemoan our circumstances. Things just happen sometimes whether by chance or fate and all I can do is my very best with what we have been dealt. We all have our good days and our bad days. But regardless, there is no doubt that our love for Morgan is strong and bright. No one illustrates this better than Kyle.
He knows that she is different. He knows that she gets sick easy. He knows she has medical problems. He knows she needs a lot of help. And, he's okay with it.
He accepts the situation better than any of us. That's just the way things are. That's just Morgan. I'm always taken by surprise by the way he handles everything. I will tell him that we have to take Morgan to the doctor and his reaction is energetic and supportive, answering with "Ok, let's do it! Let's go!" He knows the doctors help her and has said as much to me.
He is so wild and rambunctious that it is always surprising to see how gentle he is with his sister. He will tear through the house like a whirling dervish only to pause when he sees one of Morgan's socks coming off, gently pulls in back up for her, kisses her on her forehead and bounds away.
Morgan saw her Pulmonologist this week and Kyle wanted to come with us to the hospital. He likes to be there for all her doctor's appointments and was disappointed that he had to stay home. (Her lungs are sounding good. We got the news back on her chest x-rays and they look good. Her lungs are nice and open).
He talks about what has happened with her and what is happening. He asks lots of questions. He refers to her two months in the hospital as "When Morgan was banished." Not sure where he got that one, but that's what he calls it. A friend or ours gave him an Incredible Hulk toy during that time, so he tells me "Yeah, I got this when Morgan was banished."
He has his moments where he will do everything he can for my attention while I'm taking care of her. He drives me nuts when he does this, because he won't stop until I've looked at him. Normal sibling stuff.
And of all the people in Morgan's life, Kyle can make her laugh the easiest, smile the most. Danny and I will do everything we can to coax a smile or a laugh out of her and all Kyle has to do is show up next to her.
He is my wild four-year-old who can test my patience again and again. He is so energetic, seemingly tireless and many, many times, he doesn't listen. But with Morgan, he is always gentle and he always surprises me with how conscientious he is with her.
He is Morgan's Super Hero.